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These guidelines were created to ensure that we create an online space that’s welcoming, inclusive, and valuable for everyone.
We reserve the right to remove anyone from the club if these guidelines are not followed.
The Desire Lab is a place where it is easy for you to support one another spontaneously during your unfolding journey into more pleasure and sexual empowerment.
It’s a thriving group of amazing people!
One of the things that makes it so amazing, and creates a safer space for ALL members to explore and expand, is that all members agree to the following rules.
No Shared Memberships – You agree that you will not share your membership and access to the Club and Courses with partners or anyone who is not a member of the Club. We need to know that every participant has read and signed these Community Agreements to provide a safer space where we and other participants can be certain that everyone is playing by the same rules and the Company can hold all members responsible to abide by these agreements. The only way to ensure that this is the case is for everyone to have an individual membership and access. This journey is an individual journey and each member can navigate the club and the materials with the full autonomy that individualized access provides.
(If you want to get your partner(s) signed up, please email care@theblueprintbreakthrough.com. Let them know your name, the email address you signed up with, and the program you joined. In many cases we offer significant discounts for partner memberships and the care team can assist you.)
The 8 C's of our Container
1. Confidentiality:
You agree to confidentiality. By joining this member-only online club, you are agreeing to keep what is shared highly confidential. We are a container of safety. You will not use someone's name or posts without getting consent first. Any breaches of this privacy will result in immediate dismissal from this club.
Rest assured your comments on the The Desire Lab cannot be viewed outside of our club and your comments are totally private.
2. Consent:
You agree to get consent before giving advice to someone who has made a post or sharing information with others outside of this group about what others have shared. You can reach out to see if the person would like your advice, but accept a "no" as a no. Empathy and non-advice support are allowed.
If you wish to start private messaging with someone in the community, you must ask for consent first to begin sending them messages. Be clear about your intention. If you wish to flirt or be more intimate and erotic in your communication, you must be clear with the receiver about your request and accept that a "No!" is a "No!" and a "Maybe" is also a "No!"
Focus on knowledge sharing, not giving out advice. There are plenty of places online where we can dole out our expert opinions. We want to instead foster an environment where healthy debate is encouraged and everyone is celebrated for sharing their questions, stories, and perspectives. Our goal is to tackle big questions and work together to discover all of the potential answers. That can only happen when we are committed to collaboration and true knowledge sharing. If you have something you think would be helpful to another member, always ask for consent to share it before giving advice.
When you post, ask for what you want to receive. For example, if you are seeking advice, say so in your post. If you are open to Direct Messages as a response to your post, say so in your post. If you are feeling sensitive about what you are sharing and only want encouragement or only emojis in the comments, let us know so we can honor what you are asking for.
3. Consciousness:
You agree to do your best at staying conscious, noticing when you go unconscious. You agree to notice when you stop engaging and being present and you get recommitted.
4. Culture/Community:
You agree that you are aware that we are practicing as an erotic community. That our community is a melting pot. There are many genders here, there are different blueprints here, there are different religious backgrounds, past experiences, and more. We are a melting pot. You agree to honor that melting pot and to practice acceptance and non-judgment. We do not "yuck" each other's "yum" in this space, as we recognize there is a wide variety of pleasure, desires, experiences and points of view.
5. Contribution:
You agree that you will contribute to this group. Your vulnerability and open sharing will be a great contribution and will help others to step up and be courageous. Contribution is speaking from your personal experience, not necessarily teaching or advice-giving.
6. Care/Compassion:
You agree to take care of yourself. If something is triggering you (stirs up something challenging or uncomfortable), notice where you have been triggered like this in the past, reach out for help, and make great asks. Let us know how you want to be supported in your posts. Similar to #3 - Consciousness, do your best to have self-awareness and take responsibility for your needs.
You agree also to be compassionate towards others and care for others who are in the group. Let's make this community even more incredible by caring for the space - post beautiful amazing photos, breakthrough moments, and little snippets of you!
7. Communication:
You agree to communicate and connect here and to do so in a way that is filled with empathy. We will not tolerate hate, bullying, or abusive language here.
This community is to be used for connection and growth, not for personal promotion. This keeps the community friendly for everyone. There's a difference between talking about yourself, and creating context or credibility - and selling or promoting yourself. We reserve the right to remove posts, comments, or remove members from TDLfor violation of this agreement. We hope you understand the boundary and appreciate it for your benefit as well. The Blueprint Breakthrough, Inc. will post our events and promotions for courses, specials, member challenges, and in-person events.
8. Celebration:
You agree to celebrate with us; to share your wins, and your breakthroughs, and to celebrate other community members' wins, sprouts, breakthroughs, etc.
To voice your agreement please say, “YES” by checking the box at the top of this page.
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